Tuesday, January 12, 2016






Through The Eyes Of A Child


A woman is blessed to bring into existence one of the most beautiful miracles known to man:


The birth of a child


The Most High has created a woman's body to go through the changes necessary to adapt and nurture her child after birth, and with wisdom then teach unto a young adult. It is a huge responsibility to undertake because as a mother she will literally have the well-being of that child in her hands/arms. Therefore, it is the obligation of a woman to be the mirror of perfection in the eyes of her child. Of course, no one is perfect, but she can strive to be the perception of what a child believes her to be. A child's perception of that need is the security of knowing a parental presence is in their life, the understanding of unconditional love measured with values, discipline and the emotional stability of self-confidence that will instill in them a self-worth that will follow them for the rest of their life. Believe it or not a child has the innate ability to know this without foreknowledge. This is why they exhibit anger when one or both parents are not present in their life. No one is born with the tools of parenting automatically, some fall short in getting the knowledge to be the best parent necessary for a child. However, the one thing that is universal is a natural love and sense of protection for a child. We were all children at one point that gives us an advantage on how to raise our own children because there is a reference point to start with.

In other words, at one time we thought, also felt emotions and experiences as a child. It is these reference points that can be used to establish how a parent chooses to do better in implementing guidance to a child. For example, if a person came from a dysfunctional childhood of abuse, being aware of that abuse and getting the proper counseling will improve the chances of not passing that same abuse onto their child. The same with alcoholism, drug addiction, etc., these are all conditions that will most certainly have an adverse effects on the mental and social stability of a child. There are many reasons why a child's well-being isn't considered when engaging in these behaviors. It is very important as the guardian of children/child to comprehend what the consequences of a reckless lifestyle will do to the child. In understanding this they can work on/or recognize their pain and choose not to inflict that same damage to their child.

To give birth to a child makes a person responsible for the life of another human being; it is not to be taken lightly. A child is not a doll or an inanimate object to be tossed aside and forgotten when the responsibility gets too difficult to deal with or the pleasures of life becomes more important. Children are the product of their parenting good or bad, (there are exceptions to the rule) and as a parent it must be understood that what a child is taught so shall they become.
As a woman, the blessing given by The Most High to bring a life into this world is a responsibility that needs to be thought out, planned financially and with a mature knowledge to understand everything that it entails.

When you have given birth to a child and look down into those innocent eyes, peering lovingly back at you, understand that the freedom of having no responsibility of a life other than your own has now changed. You are now dedicated to a baby who will depend on you to give him/her love, values, integrity, security and guidance that will follow him/her for the rest of their life. Ultimately, it is a responsibility that will mean life or death in their future.
…….it is that serious.


Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.

Ephesians 6:1-3
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.


*note: Although I address this issue from the standpoint of a woman, it does not negate the responsibility of the man’s part in the equation of a child’s well-being. It is just as important! 



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